Hello, reading all the comments makes me cry. I've been married 8 months and I want to end it already to be at peace. I'm border line and my husband can't understand me during my episodes and he fights back and yells at me. I'm seeking therepy but my husband feels it's of no use. But i argue back saying ive just started DBT, its life long, results cant happen over night. I'm frustrated with myself and this marriage already. I guess time will tell. Good article. Gives me hope.